COACH & MENTOR WITH ME

After a  life time of various experiences following my passions sometimes successfully, often at great emotional and physical cost, always learning, I came to a place of extreme creativity when I finally allowed myself to follow the path less traveled of sexual deviance and embraced the profession of Dominatrix. 

As a Professional and Life Style Mistress I have helped transform the lives of men, women and couples and will continue as long as Life grants me energy and creativity.

As a BDSM transformational life coach and mentor I am reaching out to members  - Lifestyle and Professionals alike - individuals and couples -of our wonderful world who wish to explore issues they might encounter in their erotic lives, explore territories they might have not travelled yet and much more. I wish also to reach out to a wider community of Women and Men, Cis and Trans, Inter and Gender Fluid who are curious about their sexuality and their relationships. 

I believe it is in evading our truths and in avoiding our shadows, that we deny our own healing. Spending a lifetime orbiting our brilliance, our joy, our pleasure, our agency, never becoming fully expressed or able to project our gifts out into the world, we live circumscribed lives like somnambulists.

I am committed to sharing awareness through BDSM and guiding others in self-discovery and healing. I am committed to guide those of you who have taken up the challenge of exploring and embracing this fundamental dimension of their essence with authenticity and courage.

BDSM mentoring objectives 

  • Educate & inform those new to or within the lifestyle community through mentoring and workshops.

  • Advise and consult to BDSM professionals on lifestyle practices and values.

  • Provide individuals, couples and groups with personal advice & professional guidance to help develop confidence and skills.

  • Enhance my clients’s self-awareness, interpersonal tools, and communication techniques

  • Introduce and refine practical applications and use of a variety of tools, techniques, and equipment.

  • BDSM coaching and mentoring partnerships are part coaching and mentoring talking sessions and part “hands on” BDSM sessions with either your slave or mine. Each programme is bespoke to the indivual or the couple who is seeking support.

What BDSM coaching & mentoring is NOT

  1. BDSM coaching and mentoring is not psychotherapy. Some clients may need more intensive therapy to help them move through any concerns, especially those experiencing severe mental health distress or trauma.

  2. BDSM coaching is not BDSM session. This is “talk-only” and as your coach and mentor I do not offer, during these explorations, a BDSM session.

For bold bespoke coaching, exploration and BDSM mentoring

    • Holistic

    • Person-centered

    • Sex-positive

    • Dynamic

    • Collaborative

    • Non-hierarchical

    • Empowering

    • Healing

    • Holistic

    • Person-centered

    • Sex-positive

    • Goal-oriented

    • Dynamic

    • Collaborative

    • Educative

    • Empowering

In their own words

  • VERA BEAUFORT

    "Nuit is a wonderful coach. Her generosity with her time and wisdom knows no bounds. My work with her has brought me greater focus and concentration on the things that matter to me most and align with my values. Through PQ she has given me a valuable new life tool. I cannot recommend working with Nuit more highly."

  • ARS LUCIS

    Nuit d’Or is a coaching and mentoring alchemist, with the power to help her clients achieve their highest potential and fullest selves. My own journey with her has been deeply transformative, joyful, and thrilling and I am wonderfully changed from our work together. She is a wise, gentle, and fun guide, with an approach that is thoughtful, intelligent, insightful, and above all, elegant. I’ll forever be grateful to Nuit d’Or for her dedication and care, and my respect and adoration for her is truly limitless.

  • MISTRESS VENUS FLYSTRAP

    Maîtresse Nuit's mentorship struck the perfect balance between being hands-on and allowing berth for building self-confidence. In kink terms, she felt intuitively when to demonstrate her throws of a cat' versus when to let me deliver the lashes myself. She understands precisely how and when to inspire introspection surrounding hang-ups or blockages, asking the right questions, and issuing challenges where warranted. Crucially, she approaches her role always in a judgement free manner, and with an injection of the humour needed to make sense and subsist in the dizzying, delightful world of BDSM. Her capacity to unearth seeds self-doubt is uncanny, and a ripple effect of our relationship that I'm certain will serve me years into the future. The combination of coaching and practical sessions with her submissives allowed me to build skills at both technical and interpersonal junctures. She prioritises tailoring our practical sessions to my tastes and curiosities, all while caring for the well-being and fit of her submissives. She always takes care to relay her own, alongside her submissive's feedback in a constructive manner. Through mastery of herself and her tradecraft, Maîtresse Nuit instilled in me a deeper understanding of myself and my draw to BDSM. Though crucially, she also empowered me to claim my place within it. As a young professional in the chaos and harmony of kink, mentorship is, to me, the cornerstone to building a safe, ethical, and sustainable practice. I could not recommend a more insightful, cathartic mentor - and confidant, than Maîtresse Nuit.

  • STEPHEN - CHÉRIE

    Your deep personal experience {of BDSM} has given me new perspectives, helping me to focus on my own objectives {as a submissive}. An important goal {of self-presentation} which has long eluded me is now within sight. Thank you!" stephen - chérie’s memoirs “On Becoming chérie” was presented at UK Fetish Archives at The Bishopsgate Institute in London in September 2023 and is free to consult there. It is an invaluable testimony of a masochist and submissive courageous sexual exploration.