CHASTITY AND ORGASM DENIAL, DISPLACING FOCUS FROM SELF TO SERVICE AND SUBMISSION: EXPANDING POWER EXCHANGE IN FEMALE LEAD RELATIONSHIPS.
One of the conundrum of D/s is about service and care:
Allegedly the submissive pledges their service and obedience to their Dominant, yet they rarely acknowledge the care involved in taking them in training, and the creativity, skills expanded in exploring with them their sexual urges, fantasies etc. Whilst they might appreciate the ingenuity and talent a Dominant deploys when nailing, thus gratifying a particular trigger, they mistake it for submission, service and care. The power exchange doesn’t really happen. The Dominant might still feel the joy and power in her accomplishment in leading her submissive to their place of bliss, yet knows that power exchange can be deepened.
Consensual Power Exchange demands a psychological, sometimes a spiritual expression, whether acknowledged intellectually or not. It demands an integration of sexuality into one’s one psyche and offers the possibility of transformation into a more harmonious, whole.
One of the fundamental tools of Power Exchange is orgasm control, denial and chastity…
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